O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;
It is the green-ey’d monster, which doth mock
The meat it feeds on. That cuckold lives in bliss,
Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger:
But O, what damnèd minutes tells he o’er
Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!
—Othello by William Shakespeare
Did you know that crab fishermen do not put a lid on their catch?
If a crab tries to escape the bucket, the others will reach up and pull it back down. It is actually called the “Crab Mentality”.
Guess what? We humans do the exact same thing.
Envy is an emotion which occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it. In Latin, invidia is the sense of envy or jealousy, a “looking upon” associated with the evil eye, from invidere –“to look against”, “to look at in a hostile manner”.
I have watched beautiful and talented people pulled-down by those closest to them either friends or family members. Also, I’ve witnessed people within the business world squash their co-workers in fear of being “out-shined”.
Did you ever think that if one got to the top, they might reach down and help another? It could happen. We should be encouraging not discouraging . Think about it, all those crabs are doomed to die, but if they just helped each other they might not be in that predicament.
LIFT DON’T PULL.
Take care, my friends.
Where I’m at Wednesday
“What makes you an authority on writing?”
“What merits do you have?”
“Who gave you the right to write?”
Most of my advice is the result of many conflicts I have had to face over the years. Those questions above were just some I have encountered along my journeys.
Sadly, many people believe that if you don’t have a higher education out of high school, then you have no authority to write, or be called “author”.
One of my favorite authors, Ray Bradbury wrote astonishing details and created innovative ideas. It wasn’t until later that I learned his viewpoint about college.
“Libraries raised me. I don’t believe in colleges and universities. I believe in libraries because most students don’t have any money. When I graduated from high school, it was during the Depression and we had no money. I couldn’t go to college, so I went to the library three days a week for 10 years.”
I’m not discrediting anyone with a degree, but we, as a society cannot limit ourselves to a select few who were privileged to go.
Since the dawn of mankind, humans have dreamed and invented miraculous things. Our written language came later, and so did our ability to write fictitious stories.
Did we doubt Homer’s talents after reading The Iliad? What about Charles Dickens’ work?
I encourage everyone to learn as much as you can. If taking English Literature, Creative Writing, or other classes help to polish your skills, then I say BRAVO! Although if you are like me and college was not attainable, don’t let that slow you down. You can gain much knowledge from the many resources available—libraries, the Internet or within a writer’s group.
Take care, my friends.
Where I’m at Wednesday June 18, 2014
I am still moving ahead, and hoping to accomplish many great feats this week. It’s getting down to the nitty-gritty of the story. I want to be finished soon, so I will have enough time to reread, rewrite, and go over it a million times before sending it to the editor. When going back over the manuscript, I add more details or take away nonsensical issues. The work is grueling but very worth it in the end.
Hopefully next week, I will have some news.
Take care my friends.
I have a confession—if you read my bio, then you know that I was terribly bullied in grade school. Their cruelty got so bad, I shutdown and failed the seventh grade. The shame and humility became overwhelming, but for some reason, I endured. Negative words can affect us in ‘who we will become’. But should you listen to them?
Rudyard Kipling –fired from his job at the San Francisco Examiner in 1889 stating: “I’m sorry Mr. Kipling, but you don’t know how to use the English language.”
Marilyn Monroe –was told by a modeling agency that she should consider becoming secretary.
Elvis Presley –In 1954, the manager of the Grand Ole Opry fired him after one performance and said: “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”
Walt Disney –was fired for “the lack of imagination”.
Oprah Winfrey –fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for T.V.”
Fred Astaire –In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.”
Thomas Edison –a teacher said he was “too stupid to learn anything”.
Albert Einstein –told at school “you will never amount to anything”.
What drove these people not to listen to the discouraging words?
Could you imagine a world where Walt Disney listened to the negativity?
Or Oprah thought she was unfit for television?
What if Albert Einstein felt that he wouldn’t amount to anything?
Some of us are still fighting ghosts of dragons long ago; haunting to remind us of our inadequacies. This post isn’t directed just toward the writers, but whatever you do in life. I, too, have heard the exact same words, “you will never amount to anything”. I know in my heart that I would do anything to prove them wrong. Keep fighting the fight, and remember those words don’t define who YOU are.